X\u0259b\u0259r verdiyimiz kimi, X\u0131rdalan \u015f\u0259h\u0259rind\u0259 15 ya\u015fl\u0131 o\u011flan burax\u0131l\u0131\u015f imtahan\u0131ndan g\u00f6zl\u0259diyind\u0259n az bal toplad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn “in tihar” edib.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, bu hadis\u0259 n\u0259 ilk, n\u0259 d\u0259 sondur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
H\u0259r il burax\u0131l\u0131\u015f v\u0259 q\u0259bul imtahanlar\u0131ndan sonra bu c\u00fcr hadis\u0259l\u0259rin \u015fahidi oluruq. \u0130mtahanlar\u0131n z\u0259if n\u0259tic\u0259sini \u201ch\u0259yat\u0131n sonu\u201d oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259n yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259in b\u0259zil\u0259ri bu \u00fcsula \u0259l at\u0131r. Bu m\u00f6vzu d\u0259f\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 dan\u0131\u015f\u0131lsa da, bel\u0259 hallar\u0131n t\u0259krarlanmas\u0131 m\u00f6vzunun aktuall\u011f\u0131n\u0131 qoruyur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
M\u00f6vzu il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 \u00d6lk\u0259.Az<\/strong>-a dan\u0131\u015fan psixoloq R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n N\u0259c\u0259fov imtahan stresinin \u0259slind\u0259 \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tsiz oldu\u011funu deyib. O bildirib ki, yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259rin bu h\u0259dd\u0259 \u00e7atmas\u0131n\u0131n \u0259sas s\u0259b\u0259bi \u201cc\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 formala\u015fan \u201cxalq\u0131n u\u015fa\u011f\u0131\u201d, \u201ccamaat\u0131n u\u015fa\u011f\u0131\u201d stereotipidir:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cYeniyetm\u0259l\u0259rin q\u0259bul imtahan\u0131 zaman\u0131 ke\u00e7irdiyi h\u0259y\u0259can daha sonra onlarda m\u0259n\u0259vi b\u00f6hran yarad\u0131r. Bu zaman is\u0259 onlarda suisidal, y\u0259ni intihara meyilli fikirl\u0259r formala\u015fma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. Bel\u0259 vaxtlarda onlara valideynl\u0259ri v\u0259 c\u0259miyy\u0259t t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n y\u00fckl\u0259nm\u0259 olanda o bu c\u00fcr fikirl\u0259rini realla\u015fd\u0131rm\u0131\u015f olur. Y\u0259ni biz g\u0259ncl\u0259rimizin \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck m\u0259suliyy\u0259tl\u0259r qoymamal\u0131y\u0131q. \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, h\u0259y\u0259can m\u0259suliyy\u0259t g\u00f6st\u0259ricisidir. Sad\u0259c\u0259 olaraq biz o h\u0259y\u0259can\u0131 patoloji hala g\u0259tirm\u0259m\u0259liyik. Onu t\u0259hdid etm\u0259m\u0259liyik ki, s\u0259n q\u0259bul olmasan bel\u0259 olacaq. H\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259nmi h\u0259r hans\u0131 bir ali m\u0259kt\u0259b bizim \u00f6vlad\u0131m\u0131zdan daha art\u0131qd\u0131r? Bel\u0259 bir \u015fey yoxdur. Hadis\u0259 ba\u015f ver\u0259nd\u0259n sonra onun n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r gec v\u0259 m\u0259nas\u0131z oldu\u011funu g\u00f6r\u0259c\u0259yik. Dig\u0259r bir m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 is\u0259 odur ki, bu m\u00f6vzuda c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 \u201cxalq\u0131n u\u015fa\u011f\u0131\u201d streotipi formala\u015f\u0131b. H\u0259r k\u0259s \u201cxalq\u0131n u\u015fa\u011f\u0131\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259si il\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcr, amma onun kim oldu\u011funu biz bilmirik. T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, d\u00f6vl\u0259t v\u0259 \u00f6z\u0259l qurumlar da bu stereotipi t\u0259bli\u011f edir\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Psixoloq s\u00f6yl\u0259yib ki, t\u0259hsil d\u00f6vr\u00fcnd\u0259 \u0259ld\u0259 etdiyimiz m\u0259lumatlar h\u0259yat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n he\u00e7 bir d\u00f6vr\u00fcnd\u0259 \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259t k\u0259sb etmir:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cY\u00fcks\u0259k g\u00f6st\u0259rici ola bil\u0259r, amma bu, bilik g\u00f6st\u0259ricisi deyil. Bu g\u00fcn b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259r anlamal\u0131d\u0131r ki, orta m\u0259kt\u0259bd\u0259n qazan\u0131lm\u0131\u015f bilikl\u0259r informasiyad\u0131r, y\u0259ni b\u00fcn\u00f6vr\u0259dir. Sad\u0259c\u0259 beyin \u0259z\u0259l\u0259sinin inki\u015faf etm\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnd\u00fcr, bilik b\u00fcn\u00f6vr\u0259si bel\u0259 deyil. Y\u0259ni he\u00e7 kim bizi k\u00fc\u00e7\u0259d\u0259 saxlay\u0131b orta m\u0259kt\u0259bd\u0259 oxudu\u011fumuz f\u0259nl\u0259rd\u0259n sual verm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k v\u0259 yaxud ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z h\u0131\u0259yatda o informasiyalar\u0131n he\u00e7 bir \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259ti olmayacaq.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ya\u015famaq \u00f6z\u00fc d\u0259 insan\u0131n ilk v\u0259 m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259s pe\u015f\u0259sidir. Biz n\u0259 olursa olsun, g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k n\u0259sild\u0259n ya\u015fama\u011f\u0131 ala bilm\u0259rik. Biz onlara ya\u015fama\u011f\u0131, h\u0259yat\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259tm\u0259liyik. Onsuz da onlar b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u0259nd\u0259 orta v\u0259 ya ali m\u0259kt\u0259bd\u0259ki imtahanlar\u0131n imtahan olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259r. \u00c7\u00fcnki h\u0259yat \u00f6z\u00fc bir imtahand\u0131r v\u0259 biz h\u0259yatda verdiyimiz imtahanlarda daha \u00e7ox z\u0259rb\u0259 alm\u0131\u015f olaca\u011f\u0131q. Test imtahan\u0131nda 4 s\u0259hv 1 d\u00fcz\u00fc apar\u0131rsa, h\u0259yatda bir s\u0259hv insan\u0131n b\u00fct\u00fcn d\u00fczl\u0259rini apara bilir. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 \u00f6vladlar\u0131m\u0131za m\u00fcbariz\u0259 aparma\u011f\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259tm\u0259liyik\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n R.N\u0259c\u0259fov abituriyentl\u0259r\u0259 ixtisas se\u00e7imi il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 edil\u0259n t\u0259zyiql\u0259rin d\u0259 yanl\u0131\u015f oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yl\u0259yib: \u015eagirdl\u0259r \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 psixodiaqnostika apararaq d\u00fczg\u00fcn v\u0259 onlara uy\u011fun ixtisasa istiqam\u0259tl\u0259ndirm\u0259k olar. \u018fg\u0259r bir \u015fagird qandan qorxursa, 700 bal bel\u0259 toplasa, ondan h\u0259kim olmaz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Biz bizd\u0259n sonrak\u0131 n\u0259sli g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259y\u0259 haz\u0131rlamal\u0131y\u0131q, \u00f6z d\u00f6vr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u0259 yox. Onlar g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259yin \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tl\u0259ri, pe\u015f\u0259karlar\u0131d\u0131r. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 onlar\u0131n se\u00e7iml\u0259rin\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015fmal\u0131, s\u0259hv ed\u0259rk\u0259n yan\u0131nda olmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. H\u0259yat q\u0259bul olunmas\u0131 asan, h\u0259r an\u0131 imtahan v\u0259 he\u00e7 vaxt m\u0259zun ola bilm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259yimiz ali d\u0259y\u0259rdir, m\u0259kt\u0259bdir. \u00d6vladlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 sevm\u0259liyik. Onlar aras\u0131nda q\u0131naq yox, sa\u011flam r\u0259qab\u0259t olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Q\u0131naq fiziki v\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259vi d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259n\u00e7ilik yard\u0131r. Biz \u00f6vladlar\u0131m\u0131za sevm\u0259yi, sevgi il\u0259 ya\u015fama\u011f\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259tm\u0259liyik\u201d,-dey\u0259 o \u0259lav\u0259 edib.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Billur\u0259 Yunus<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" X\u0259b\u0259r verdiyimiz kimi, X\u0131rdalan \u015f\u0259h\u0259rind\u0259 15 ya\u015fl\u0131 o\u011flan burax\u0131l\u0131\u015f imtahan\u0131ndan g\u00f6zl\u0259diyind\u0259n az bal toplad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn “in tihar” edib. T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2471,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_coblocks_attr":"","_coblocks_dimensions":"","_coblocks_responsive_height":"","_coblocks_accordion_ie_support":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\u0130st\u0259nil\u0259n abiuturiyent t\u0259l\u0259b\u0259 olduqdan sonra abituriyent vaxt\u0131 ke\u00e7irdiyi h\u0259y\u0259cana g\u00fcl\u00fcr, n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r m\u0259nas\u0131z oldu\u011funu g\u00f6r\u00fcr, q\u0259buldan sonrak\u0131 sevincinin adi hal oldu\u011funu d\u0259rk edir. Ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr ki, bu q\u0259d\u0259r h\u0259y\u0259cana d\u0259ym\u0259zmi\u015f. Y\u0259ni bizim valideynl\u0259r v\u0259 c\u0259miyy\u0259t bu istiqam\u0259td\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259lidir v\u0259 bir-birini q\u0131namamal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cOnlar sevdiyi ixtisasa q\u0259bul olmal\u0131, sevdiyi istiqam\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259lidirl\u0259r ki, g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 d\u0259 sevdiyi i\u015fl\u0259ri bacars\u0131nlar. T\u0259bli\u011fat bunun \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 apar\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u201cS\u0259n y\u00fcks\u0259k bal toplam\u0131san, bal\u0131na uy\u011fun ixtisasa q\u0259bul olunmal\u0131san\u201d dem\u0259k do\u011fru deyil. Pe\u015f\u0259 xarakter\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7ox t\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, m\u0259kt\u0259bl\u0259rimizd\u0259 d\u0259 psixoloqlar\u0131m\u0131z bu istiqam\u0259td\u0259 f\u0259aliyy\u0259t g\u00f6st\u0259rmir, valideynl\u0259r d\u0259, m\u00fc\u0259lliml\u0259r d\u0259 bu bar\u0259d\u0259 m\u0259lumatl\u0131 deyill\u0259r. Y\u0259ni bu \u00fc\u00e7bucaq qurulmur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n